Answering Your Questions LIVE with Matthew AI

Introduction

Hello everyone! We're going live across various platforms today – YouTube, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook. If you're here, please leave me a comment so I can see who's joining us. I’ve got Audrey sitting behind the camera, and I’m excited to share what we have planned for today.

We just landed in New York last night and it’s about to get busy! I'm off to tape an episode of The Drew Barrymore Show today. However, it won't air until next week, so don't tune in expecting to see me today. After that, we're heading to Florida for a six-day retreat with over 300 attendees. So, yes, a packed schedule ahead!

Today, I wanted to hop on and answer some of your questions, as well as unveil a fun comparison I’m calling “Matthew versus Matthew AI.” I’ve seen some comments online complimenting the AI’s answers, and while I’m flattered, a part of me feels a little envious too. Therefore, I’m excited to see how both Matthew and Matthew AI tackle your questions today.

First up, let's dive into a question I received on Instagram about relationships. One user asked why it seems difficult for men in their 30s to commit to a relationship and why they think there’s always something better out there.

To everyone following along, what do you think? Why is commitment a challenge for many men in their 30s?

I see a number of comments coming through. A user named Lori suggested it’s because “women give it up too easily.” Maya mentioned that men struggle to commit at any age, which is a valid point. Kathy referred to this phenomenon as the "optimization illusion."

Let's do a little psychological breakdown here. Many men experience societal conditioning that romanticizes the idea of "sowing their oats." The archetype of the charismatic man often portrayed in film can lead to a belief that commitment equates to a loss of freedom or excitement—characters like James Bond or Don Draper come to mind. All this influences their mindset.

Then there’s the “optimization problem.” This is where type A personalities constantly seek improvement in every area of life. They want to optimize their business, health, and even their romantic relationships. The issue is, love doesn't work like that. You can’t keep trying to optimize a human being in a relationship. Many find themselves second-guessing their partner, wanting someone who checks all the boxes, but no one is perfect.

If they do find someone, they might feel pressured by all the awesome people they’ve previously passed on, raising the stakes immensely for future partners.

Switching gears now, let’s move on to Matthew AI, our new groundbreaking tool! For those unaware of it, Matthew AI is trained on all my content and offers personalized responses to your questions. You can visit askmh.com to interact with Matthew AI—or simply text “Ask MH” on Facebook or Instagram to get started.

Let’s try this out. I’ll call Matthew AI and see how he handles a relationship question.

Viewer Interaction with Matthew AI

Caller: Hi Matthew AI, my name is Charlie. Can you give me a script for approaching someone at work without coming across too intense?

Matthew AI: Absolutely, Charlie! Start with a light compliment: “Hey [Name], I noticed you did [specific task]—that was really impressive! How did you get into that?” This way, you show interest without overwhelming them.

Caller: But what if I don’t know them at all?

Matthew AI: Comment on something situational. For example, ask, “I saw you were working on that project—how’s it going?” This opens the door naturally without pressure.

In this demonstration, Matthew AI provided practical, thoughtful advice tailored to the question.

As we continue, I’ll emphasize that the goal is to create a friendly, enjoyable atmosphere. Don’t feel like flirting needs to be an all-or-nothing game; playful banter or nuanced compliments can gently ignite a connection.

I received a comment from a licensed psychotherapist praising Matthew AI’s detailed response—an incredible validation of what we’ve worked hard to develop.

Let’s move on and explore some more questions.

One viewer asked why someone with avoidant attachment behaviors can seem fine immediately after a breakup. The answer here is multifaceted. Avoidants can compartmentalize feelings; they’re capable of severing emotional ties more easily than anxious types, who may visibly display their heartbreak.

A pertinent question arose: “Will they do this to the next person?” It’s often true that patterns repeat, so if they’ve acted this way once, it’s reasonable to consider it might occur again.

So, what are the best topics for a first date? Focus on light and engaging subjects. Conversations about travel, hobbies, favorite books, or films create excellent opportunities to bond. Talk about what you’re passionate about as it brings a spark to your conversation.

If you haven’t already done so, I highly encourage you to check out Matthew AI at askmh.com or by texting “Ask MH.” Engaging with Matthew AI is like having a personalized coach right at your fingertips.

Thank you all for your wonderful support. It means a lot to me, especially during this exciting but nerve-wracking launch! I’ll keep you updated on the episode with Drew Barrymore.

Stay tuned, and don’t forget to try Matthew AI!

Keywords:

• Commitment
• Relationships
• Optimization Illusion
• Attachment Styles
• Matthew AI
• First Date Topics

FAQ:

Q: Why do many men in their 30s struggle to commit?
A: Societal conditioning, the myth of "sowing oats," and the optimization mindset all contribute to this challenge.

Q: What should I talk about on a first date?
A: Discuss topics you’re passionate about, light subjects such as travel, hobbies, favorite books, or films to keep the conversation engaging.

Q: How does Matthew AI work?
A: Matthew AI provides personalized answers based on extensive training on Matthew Hassy’s content, allowing users to receive tailored advice.

Q: Can avoidant individuals feel fine after a breakup?
A: Yes, avoidants often compartmentalize their feelings and can move on quickly without showing visible signs of distress.